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Getting hitched? To opt for it or not…

 I being myself had finally come to this conclusion…it’s a prime question indeed a shocking one to me, and to everyone around me, only a few very close people know about it.

I am 28 years old now and it’s not like my biological clock is ticking and I am getting old and weary. It’s just that I have gone through my own share of learning experiences and so called phases by relying on everyone else for my happiness and my peace of mind.

Well that’s life, and this is how one learns and evolves.

It’s not like I don’t have any dreams and aspirations and I have just reconcile myself to compromise and live my whole life like a homemaker.

It sounds too funny, as that’s not in my DNA to become docile and sit at home but voila I have been doing this for 2 years.

I won’t say it’s boring and tedious, it’s fun and creative too and it is a 24/7 job.

Unfortunately little due is given to a homemaker who does her job (majority of them are women) in our culture.

On the contrary some praise should be given to the men of our society who evenhandedly take care of the entire house without expressing their emotions, while dealing with substantial amount of pressure all on their own.  

What do we generally look for in a life partner?

-Companionship

-Understanding

-Support

-Love

-Respect

These are all intangible things that we deeply desire but logically the qualities which are essential for marriage should be:

-Financial stability

-Maturity

-Mental stability

-Emotional stability

It’s easy to bullet these points out as this isn’t something new and we are all looking for such attributes in our partner but isn’t it advisable to acquire these qualities in our own self first. You can’t look for such things in others if you yourself don’t have it in you. It’s stupid!

Marriage is a commitment; it’s like a lifelong deal and it surely requires compromises and sacrifices from both ends.

Life is either very simple or too complicated; it’s just the way how we see it.

For a person like me who considers herself a princess! A hopeful romantic, an old soul, who believes in eternal love and still deems that her soul-mate exists somewhere in the realms of this universe, and you never know someone might just appear out of nowhere!(yup! i do think like that too) and it is one of my many desires....

Nevertheless the rule of the nature is that there is no such rule and anything can happen at any point of time.

One can truly create their destiny by firmly believing in what do they genuinely believe in. 

So to find someone whom you are looking for you might as well just become that and you will attract what you actually really deserve.

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  1. AnonymousAugust 10, 2021 at 11:30 AM

    Phir? kuch baat bani?

    -KKKJ MO

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    1. Kanwal Khalid KhimjiAugust 11, 2021 at 3:28 AM

      Thank you Dr for taking the time out to read my blog. May God bless you

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