Life is a measure of experiences and all the moments that one has been through and what that all made us into.
I graduated almost 4 years ago, most torturous yet formative five years of my life,but i feel, it all did not really matter! What really matters is where am i now at this point of my life.
Do we ever bother to ask anyone, if they are happy or not? Forget others,
Do we ask ourselves if we are happy?
Guess what, In a very classic way, i shall share a story of one night, it was 2 hours past midnight, in the month of November, it was slightly cold and breezy. Like usual, I was sitting on the terrace under the moonlight, weeping, as I was feeling numb and empty, I dared to ask myself, because earlier it was all just about crying alone, cajoling myself on my own, but that night i plucked up the courage to finally ask myself that one question which was messing up with my existence and emotions .. that if i was feeling happy?
The irony is that nobody is teaching their children in their homes and at schools, the meaning of being successful; which is to feel happy and grateful for whatever they are blessed with and sharing and helping others as much as one can, being successful is about following one's passion, it's about discovering oneself and the purpose of our lives.
And to be rich; is to have an abundance in knowledge, in experience, in the quality of people we are surrounded with, in our ethics, in our intellect.
Have we ever question that to our elders? why didn't we? Because they were not allowed to ask or argue and that's how they want us to be.
In today’s day and age we talk about artificial intelligence, ha!, but what about our minds? What are we running after? What are we accumulating and for whom? How are we managing to live with these mediocre mind sets such as: ‘earning for living’, ‘I earn so that I can travel around the world,so that I can own nice car and a house’, ‘I work for money’.‘ I work cause that’s what we are suppose to do to survive’.
Today awareness of almost everything and anything is available on our fingertips, but what we sadly could not achieve is awareness of our own existence.
Everyone and everything evolves, nothing remains stagnant, change is the ultimate truth of this life.
About 10 years ago I thought of becoming world's greatest surgeon! Yes, and i got myself enrolled in a bachelors program of medicine and even managed to attain a bachelors degree in medicine and surgery. phew!
But as of now i think and function differently.
What should i call upon this capricious attitude of mine, that am I a loser? I might have gotten afraid of the hard work which is required to pursue this career. I must not be realizing the amount which had been spent on me,when my parents could not even afford it. or simply I am being ungrateful and irrational.
I was 16 when I dreamt to become world's greatest surgeon, with no experience of this life, with no one to look up to, I was good in studies because that was the only thing I knew of, and was really keen to study about human body and its mechanisms.
Simultaneously, In school, I was great in extra curricular activities, from participating in declamation competition, to poetry elocution, dramatics, singing and dancing.
Needless to say, i could not have opt for that as my career path back then, because i did not consider it as any means to earn or anything else.
I did not even know who I was, which by the way, I still don't know; yes that's my existential dilemma ..
Just like everyone, there were few career choices for me, and i chose to pursue medicine. Somehow I managed to get into this expensive medical school, and that is how and where my real education started.
Now as I have intentionally taken this time out for myself to pause, think and question, I happened to realize that security and safety is the actual definition of success in this world.
But as of now i think and function differently.
What should i call upon this capricious attitude of mine, that am I a loser? I might have gotten afraid of the hard work which is required to pursue this career. I must not be realizing the amount which had been spent on me,when my parents could not even afford it. or simply I am being ungrateful and irrational.
I was 16 when I dreamt to become world's greatest surgeon, with no experience of this life, with no one to look up to, I was good in studies because that was the only thing I knew of, and was really keen to study about human body and its mechanisms.
Simultaneously, In school, I was great in extra curricular activities, from participating in declamation competition, to poetry elocution, dramatics, singing and dancing.
Needless to say, i could not have opt for that as my career path back then, because i did not consider it as any means to earn or anything else.
I did not even know who I was, which by the way, I still don't know; yes that's my existential dilemma ..
Just like everyone, there were few career choices for me, and i chose to pursue medicine. Somehow I managed to get into this expensive medical school, and that is how and where my real education started.
Now as I have intentionally taken this time out for myself to pause, think and question, I happened to realize that security and safety is the actual definition of success in this world.
Do we ever bother to ask anyone, if they are happy or not? Forget others,
Do we ask ourselves if we are happy?
Guess what, In a very classic way, i shall share a story of one night, it was 2 hours past midnight, in the month of November, it was slightly cold and breezy. Like usual, I was sitting on the terrace under the moonlight, weeping, as I was feeling numb and empty, I dared to ask myself, because earlier it was all just about crying alone, cajoling myself on my own, but that night i plucked up the courage to finally ask myself that one question which was messing up with my existence and emotions .. that if i was feeling happy?
The irony is that nobody is teaching their children in their homes and at schools, the meaning of being successful; which is to feel happy and grateful for whatever they are blessed with and sharing and helping others as much as one can, being successful is about following one's passion, it's about discovering oneself and the purpose of our lives.
And to be rich; is to have an abundance in knowledge, in experience, in the quality of people we are surrounded with, in our ethics, in our intellect.
Have we ever question that to our elders? why didn't we? Because they were not allowed to ask or argue and that's how they want us to be.
What really kept me motivated, to be honest, was the safety of being paid at the end of the month, being able to repay my family whatever and how much i could, escaping and distracting myself from my bad choices and emotional aftermaths of those decisions,and most importantly, that feeling of triumph I felt, when I used to get successful in 'pretending' to appear 'normal', in front of my family and this society.
It was all claustrophobic, and I developed anxiety and frustration in me.
Why should i fit in? if i have the ability to stand out.
How, when and what will i do, that i have got no idea of, but i surely came in terms with the fact that i didn't belong there.
When we work for someone then we have to follow the herd mentality, we knowing or unknowingly become a part of that herd, and initially I was one of those timid, unseen sheep who very efficiently followed the commands of the shepherd, and later, when I chose to use my own mind, to work in my own way and not go by the book, I was considered as the black sheep of that particular herd.
I asked myself, Why should i bother to become a part of that mindset, with which i could not relate at all?
No wonder that life gave me safety and security, but it didn't make me happy, i was not living that life, i was just pretending to be living.
It was all claustrophobic, and I developed anxiety and frustration in me.
Why should i fit in? if i have the ability to stand out.
How, when and what will i do, that i have got no idea of, but i surely came in terms with the fact that i didn't belong there.
I asked myself, Why should i bother to become a part of that mindset, with which i could not relate at all?
No wonder that life gave me safety and security, but it didn't make me happy, i was not living that life, i was just pretending to be living.
In today’s day and age we talk about artificial intelligence, ha!, but what about our minds? What are we running after? What are we accumulating and for whom? How are we managing to live with these mediocre mind sets such as: ‘earning for living’, ‘I earn so that I can travel around the world,so that I can own nice car and a house’, ‘I work for money’.‘ I work cause that’s what we are suppose to do to survive’.
Today awareness of almost everything and anything is available on our fingertips, but what we sadly could not achieve is awareness of our own existence.
Where have our aspirations gone? Why cannot we run after to achieve greatness? Why cannot we help each other to find the ultimate truth or rather help ourselves first? Why everything has become about self ? and if it is about self, then why is there so much vanity and superficial outlook towards life?
Phew, I am asking too many questions, at one go.
Well. I surely believe, its best to take a break, which life has already given us,for better or for worst.
Then why is it getting so uncomfortable for us? Because we are afraid to face ourselves, to encounter with our insecurities, our deep open wounds..
Phew, I am asking too many questions, at one go.
Well. I surely believe, its best to take a break, which life has already given us,for better or for worst.
Then why is it getting so uncomfortable for us? Because we are afraid to face ourselves, to encounter with our insecurities, our deep open wounds..
But every day and every moment of our lives we have got a chance to completely change the things around us or if not that, then we can at least change our outlook towards the circumstances which we are facing currently.
Develop the courage to accept yourself and your flaws.
Make your own rules to create a life of your choice.
Be that black sheep, who dared to let go of all the physical comfort and ease of this world, just to find its true purpose, by negating the cliched way of living this life.
Develop the courage to accept yourself and your flaws.
Make your own rules to create a life of your choice.
Be that black sheep, who dared to let go of all the physical comfort and ease of this world, just to find its true purpose, by negating the cliched way of living this life.
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